a blog about feminism, fandoms, sexuality, cute animals, art, and life in general
It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is often regarded to be. It’s a neurotic self-defense behavior that develops to protect a person’s sense of self-worth.
You see, procrastinators tend to be people who have, for whatever reason, developed to perceive an unusually strong association between their performance and their value as a person. This makes failure or criticism disproportionately painful, which leads naturally to hesitancy when it comes to the prospect of doing anything that reflects their ability — which is pretty much everything.
I’ve posted this before but I’m posting it again because it’s just so important and really gets at the heart of why so much advice about procrastination, much of it targeted at people who have ADHD but are just considered “lazy,” fails. Before you can tell someone to “just do it already,” you need to think about the reasons they’re NOT doing it, like all the meanings they’ve attached to vague terms like “success” and “failure.”
|Sirius:||Hey Hagrid can I have my godson whom I was entrusted to look after by my best mate, his father?|
|Hagrid:||No, Dumbledore says you can't.|
|Sirius:||But, legally, I-|
|Aurors:||Sirius Black you are under arrest for the murder of twelve people and for being implicated in the murder of the Potters and for working for Lord Voldemort.|
|Sirius:||But, if you looked at my wand you'd see I didn't cast any-|
|Sirius:||Why would I even betray James? He was like a brother to me. He showed me what was wrong with my upbringing, he took me in when I was disinherited, and he was the best mate I ever had. I am so upset about his death I am barely coherent.|
|Aurors:||Dumbledore says you did it.|
|Sirius:||But I was working FOR Dumbledore. Literally ask any Order member or Death Eater and they will tell you that Voldemort hated me.|
|Aurors:||You're going to wizard prison, motherfucker.|